Thoughts and such like.....
Throughout the course of a week, I participate and sometimes observe many meetings, in both I observe the people involved. One week I participated in a meeting and was particularly gobsmacked (a great descriptive word!) at the behaviour of one person, let's call him Jack.
Jack's colleague arrived on time and noted that Jack might be late. We waited a short while and decided to begin our discussion. Some twenty minutes into the allotted time Jack arrived and sat down, no apology. His mobile rang and he took it out of his pocket, checked the number and continued with our conversation, he paused and began to scroll his e-mail. Eventually noting the silence from myself and my colleague he looked up, stopped and turned his mobile upside down. He then began to note that his colleagues, with one in the room, are lazy and that was part of the problem he is there to fix. Rather than listening to what was being said, he talked, not allowing for silence, or space to absorb both the atmosphere and the impact of his words. Thirty minutes after he arrived, he looked at the clock and stood up, ready to dash to another meeting.
In todays world, many may chose to ignore the simple forms of business etiquette. I am not one of them. My opinion of Jack has now been formed and it will take a lot to change it. How often do we do tiny things without thought? Taking out our mobile to check messages, when in a meeting or at a workshop? Speaking loudly into our mobile in a public place, unaware, or maybe uncaring that anyone could be listening, and forming opinions of our behaviour and more importantly our business. Speaking without thinking of the impact of our statements.
Coaching Jack, I would ask how he would handle a colleague who spoke disparagingly of him and his co-workers? I would ask what image did he wish to convey as a businessman and of the employer he was representing?
What else would you suggest Jack change? How would you have handled his behaviour, as the colleague in the room, and as one of the individuals he was meeting?
As business people, we expect some level of politeness. Being rude to others demonstrates a lack of respect, do you believe Jack wanted to project that image?
Let me know your thoughts and experiences in this new technological world!
If one has to get up at ungodly hours, then these are the sunrises one cannot miss. This morning for me was an early one, however on coming down the hill I couldn't but stop and watch this beautiful sunrise. My meeting could wait, sometimes it pays to get up early!
I continued onto my meeting after taking a few photographs, my good feeling continuing not only throughout the meeting but throughout the day. Usually on these early morning days I leave early, stumble home and fall upon the sofa. But I have made a commitment to myself that I would leave my office early and go to the gym. No one was there to check on me, I hadn't stated my commitment out loud, so I could have easily just gone home quietly and relaxed, no one else the wiser. But like committing to family, a friend or a job, I am learning that committing to myself is equally important.
What is com‧mit‧ment?
Wikipedia states that 'Commitment is the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.. It is also known as a pledge or an undertaking.'
I often find that while I stick to any commitment made to work, family or friends, sticking to a commitment made to me is so much more difficult to achieve. I find too that I am not alone. Clients who are trying to change or move forward, often find that while they will almost bend over backwards to ensure they meet any commitment to others, their commitment to themselves is easy to ignore. So how can we make sure when we commit something to ourselves we treat that commitment in the same manner as we would to anyone else. Speaking that commitment out loud, booking them into our calendars, making them as important, or more so, than all other commitments we make. Take something that you try to do on a weekly, or monthly basis - an hour at the gym, an early night - anything that you want to do for yourself, make a commitment to keep that commitment once a week for a month, same day, same time. See how you do. Let me know how you do - I'm curious.
Oh, and by the way, the ending to my story. I keep my bike on a rack on my car, I left early, took my bike off and took it out. The bike ride was brilliant, 18 K in the sunshine!
I've been thinking a lot about 'what next', my kids are almost grown and now it is time for me - what do I want that to look like?
Have you ever taken a chance and jumped in without thought other than your gut telling you this is right?
Too often we focus on the negatives, the what ifs and funnily enough those what ifs are always negative! What if you just did it? Leave that job, move to a different city, start that business - what if you were successful?
Ken Carlson talks about 'The Art of Jumping' on his blog:
I love the descriptions he uses to describe our excuses, and the suggestions he makes to start jumping!
I've used those excuses, and others,; What if nobody wants me to coach them? I can't just give up work and hope to find clients I've still responsibilities and promises to my children. However, that doesn't stop me getting the ball rolling - What would a full coaching practice look like? What are the first steps to putting that into place? what is my timeline, when am I going to take that jump?
What have I done to start the process: This website and blog. I've made that phone call, and set up an appointment! Now I ask myself what is the next step?
So when will you jump? If your life was just as you wanted, what would it look like?
Let me know - maybe I can help you have a wonderfully, exhilarating Jump!
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