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![]() Gerascophia is the fear of growing old or old age. Recently I have read and listened to a lot of negative conversations about aging, always negative thoughts of what is to come and just negativity about aging in general. I find I often get annoyed at people blaming their memory on 'old age', or stating, 'I'm too old to do that' without thought about whether they actually could, rather just making the assumption that it's not possible! What is it about aging that makes people feel negative, fear the future, resigned to the frame of mind that from here on there will be slow degeneration of mind and body, and that the best of life is behind us? What is it that pushes us to pull out those grey hairs, try to hide the wrinkles and associate the word old with 'ugly'? Me, I often think that some of the most beautiful people are the elderly - I love the faces of older people, I associate their lines and wrinkles with experience and a life well lived. Women (me too), are often taken in with the advertising that tells us we can look younger, or recapture our youthful looks through using this potion or this powder! We forget you can't go back, however you can go forward and you have a choice of how that forward journey will go. We often look at those who are in residential care as the poster people for old age, and yet in 2016, only 6.8% of Canadians age 65 and older were living in care, this did jump to 30% for those 85 and older, but 6.8% - why do we worry so much... What if we were shown advertisements of older people embracing their age and the changes it brings - like wisdom and the ability to do what we please without having to consider the impact it has on our children and family. What if we embrace our wrinkles as part of our success in survival! One article I read said that with old age comes the probability of sickness and various chronic illness, hum what? Living at any age comes with the probability of sickness and chronic disease, maybe we should ask how we live can reduce that probability, at any age! If we look at ourselves at a certain age and find that perhaps we hadn't realized the contribution or level of prosperity that we had hoped for when we were younger, we can sit and feel disappointed and let that disappointment direct the rest of our life, or we can accept that we aren't where we hoped we would be, and think about what next. What do we want for the next 20 or 30 years we have left to us? We can wallow in a pity party and become the grumpy old person, or we can accept that which we can't change and move forward. As we grow older, there are things that we can't avoid. There are often more people we know who die, others do get sick and need 24/7 support, but there are also things we can do to try and live as healthy a life as we can, we can invest in ourselves! Perhaps the most healthy change we can make is about the way we view growing older - really we can't do anything about it, everyone is doing it! What does worrying about aging bring us? Certainly worrying is not going to make us any younger, rather it eats up time and can actually make us sick. So what can we do:
Growing older isn't something to be afraid of, rather it's a time to embrace life. Many older people claim that as they age they become more of who they are, or were meant to be. Growing older doesn't mean that we should lose our appetite for life, rather we should look at it as a time to grow more passionate, to celebrate who we are and to care less about what others think of us. We can chose who we want to spend time with, rather than trying to fit in with people we feel we 'should' spend time with. Growing older allows us the opportunity to continue our learning, something I'm passionate about, and don't believe what they say about being too old to learn a new skill - in this piece David Robson disproves the theory that an older brain simply cannot absorb the same information as a young child! www.bbc.com/future/story/20170828-the-amazing-fertility-of-the-older-mind Don’t allow our cultural perspective of old age to hold you back so that you wake up one day with regret of having missed out on life. Don’t allow fear to rule you. Rather look at what brings you joy, look at each day as a gift and take pleasure in the little things - make a difference in your world and let fear go. If you do so, you will also probably avoid one of the key things that affect many of our elders today - loneliness. All of us need a sense of purpose, of belonging. So:
“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” Mark Twain
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![]() Do you use all your vacation time, or are you too busy? In 2017, according to Expedia's Vacation Deprivation report Canada ranked 9th in being the most vacation deprived! And that being said, those living in the US are not much better at taking their vacation time; that is, if they are given it - unlike other developed countries in the World, the US has no mandated vacation days for employees. And, although Canadians have mandated vacation, we have less mandated vacation days when compared to most other Western nations. Are you feeling overwhelmed, stressed, out of balance and under the gun at work - do you tell yourself and others that you cannot take vacation because you are too busy? Do you think taking a vacation will make you look less dedicated to your workplace? Let's debunk some myths: 1. I'll be seen as less dedicated and less productive -
Let's rephrase and talk about what a vacation or taking time off can do for you!
Now I'm talking about a real vacation, not a day here and there but a week, or even better two weeks away. To really benefit from a vacation we must - turn off e-mail and calls, and stop thinking about work. Even planning a vacation can change our outlook and make us happier. If you worry about someone dropping the ball at work, plan, delegate and then trust. Remember no one is indispensable, although we do sometimes like to think we are.. I'm often amazed when I go away, and really turn off, how many solutions I find when I return home, to challenges I had struggled with before I left. It's important to take time away, whether you own the business, are an key team leader or a new employee. It's important to your health, which in turn is important to your company's health. Burnout is real and costly for companies, stressed out employees are not productive or creative, in fact they can be downright grumpy and disruptive. Remember you only have this life to live, you are in charge of how you live it. Working yourself to the bone, suffering ill health and bad relationships because you are afraid of taking time away may mean it's time to re-access what's important. Take back your time! Live the life you have been given with joy, gratitude and happiness. And, if you need support to instigate changes, contact me and set up an appointment for a free discovery session. |
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