Thoughts and such like.....
I've been thinking a lot about 'what next', my kids are almost grown and now it is time for me - what do I want that to look like?
Have you ever taken a chance and jumped in without thought other than your gut telling you this is right?
Too often we focus on the negatives, the what ifs and funnily enough those what ifs are always negative! What if you just did it? Leave that job, move to a different city, start that business - what if you were successful?
Ken Carlson talks about 'The Art of Jumping' on his blog:
I love the descriptions he uses to describe our excuses, and the suggestions he makes to start jumping!
I've used those excuses, and others,; What if nobody wants me to coach them? I can't just give up work and hope to find clients I've still responsibilities and promises to my children. However, that doesn't stop me getting the ball rolling - What would a full coaching practice look like? What are the first steps to putting that into place? what is my timeline, when am I going to take that jump?
What have I done to start the process: This website and blog. I've made that phone call, and set up an appointment! Now I ask myself what is the next step?
So when will you jump? If your life was just as you wanted, what would it look like?
Let me know - maybe I can help you have a wonderfully, exhilarating Jump!
Changes, like death and taxes, are inevitable! Sometimes we are the ones that drive changes, other times it feels like we have no choice, rather changes are happening to us. How we deal with changes often says a lot about us.
Change can make us act like stubborn children, no we're not going to move from our comfort zone, even when we drive the change we can find ourselves resisting moving forward. Often we blame external forces when really the resistance is internal. I often talk about how much I love change, how exciting it is and yet being honest I know there is a part of me that is running in the opposite direction, running scared! How I manage the process of moving forward is by taking time out, thinking about what it is that is stopping me and what I can do to get over my resistance. Sometimes I ask myself the question and let it sit for a while in the back of my head, where my unconscious mind takes over and the answer comes, other times I talk with friends and ask for their help or I ask for help from my coach! I need that push to help me overcome my resistance and instead of trying to do it all at once, I break it down into chucks? What will it look like when the change occurs? What is the first step in moving forward? Sounds easy and sometimes it can be, other times - oh boy it's like climbing up hill, backwards!
Do you remember a time you made a change? What did it feel like? Is there something in your life right now that you want to change? Try imaging what you will feel like when that change happens?
I love new pages, books, magazines even the smell of a new packet of paper - what is it that attracts me? The starting over, turning a new page the subtle reminder that there's always an opportunity to start over. No matter how bad things may appear, a new page, a new day - we cannot and should not be held back by our past, by mistakes. Yes we should acknowledge them, learn from them and when/if they have hurt others try and make up for the hurt, but continue to live and let them rule our lives - I don't think so, what about you, what do you think?
So talking of new pages, welcome to my blog. This is a page where I ask questions, give my opinion and offer advice. I will talk of my own experiences and lessons learned. I'll muse about life, work and whatever takes my fancy. I invite you to argue, answer my questions and ask some questions of your own.
So how about you, how do you deal with mistakes? Have you ever let them rule your actions against your better judgement, but because you feel guilty? So how have you moved forward - let's talk.
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