Thoughts and such like.....
I was watching the Canadian Forces Snowbirds fly above our inner harbour the other week and got to thinking that life is a little like the flight of one of these planes. We soar and sweep, sometimes dipping down low life can often feel like a loop de loop as we chase ourselves in circles. We're flying along, the sky is blue and nothing seems to trouble us and then suddenly we hit an air pocket and down we go, twirling madly as we try to find something to cling to! Then next moment we're soaring again, everything going our way, our friends, family and colleagues flying with us, everything in sync, then one flies off on their own, but hey we're okay we've still got everyone else, then another disappears, or maybe starts twisting with their own challenges, and once again it feels like we're flying solo, no support. But then, as we think other planes have disappeared for good, they pop up again and fly with us, once again providing that support.
Sometimes we just need to reach out to friends and family, they may not realize we're in difficulty, however once they notice they're there supporting and flying with us, other times we're giving the support and that's good too.
There are times in our lives that people do disappear and that's okay, they have been in our lives for a reason and now it's time for us to fly away from them. When a friend turned 40 some years ago, she told me she had decided to be done with those people who brought her down, let her down or weren't supportive of her - she let a number of people go, she felt so much better, and it was then she realized that they were no longer supporting her, but rather the weight they carried was in put pulling her down with them.
I often tell people how much I want my kids to fly, I needed to let them go, to have them come back to me, trusting that the lessons I taught them as young kids would hold them steady. I've never regretted that decision, I adore my boys, but they have their own lives, and need to live them without me. I'm there if they need me, but they need to be free and I wouldn't have it any other way.
What or who are you holding onto that no longer serves you? What would it take to let it go? Let me know below in the comments section.
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