Thoughts and such like.....
As my friends and many of my regular blog readers know I have two sons. What I realized this weekend when my youngest came to visit was how incredibly focused they both are. As they were growing up, I ignored conventional wisdom and told them always to go for their dream, what made them happy. Both have followed that advice, sometimes hurting for it, the eldest as a musician, always broke, but going through university realizing there are many ways to work in the music industry, and find his path there. The youngest who dreams of playing professional rugby, continuing to hone his skill, working out each day, practicing, stretching, rolling and taking on MacJobs, or jobs that don't lead anywhere, just to be able to do what he dreams of.
This ability to go for our dreams is what separates many people from the rest of us - they have a belief in themselves and their ability, they work hard and go without because they believe. We admire those 'who've made it', people who've worked hard and become who they dreamed they would be, but sometimes we forget the cost, or we ignore those trying to climb the ladder. It's so much easier to give up, to say no, I won't make it or there are too many obstacles in my way. It takes courage to follow your path. There are those who despite setbacks continue to live their dream? They may never be famous or household names, they may never be rich or turn heads as they walk by, but they continue to live their dream in the life they live.
I believe it is never to late to dream - or try for your dream. There seems to be a belief that our life is already written, we can't change it - I don't believe that, our role is to grab that pen and write our own story, in all it's glorious technicolour, whether our dream is to travel the World or to stay at home - it is our story we develop and shape it as we wish! What do you dream of, and what excuse do you have for not trying? Many people don't believe in themselves 'It'll never happen, why bother?' they reason. However, if you never try, of course it will never happen - what if you tried? You have to believe in yourself, before others can believe in you! Each day is precious, don't waste it - reach, Steve Jobs said:
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.'
If you're working in a job you hate, counting the minutes until the day ends, why? You only have this one life; what will it take for you to change so that you can follow your dream? It's never too late to pursue what you love, and if there are others who will be affected by you following this dream, talk to them, they love you, they will want you to be happy and will be there for you as you work toward your goal. Clients will often say, I can't remember that far back, when I ask 'What did you dream of in your teens/twenties/thirties - I call them on it, we never forget our dreams. We may lose them in the hustle and bustle of a busy life, but we don't forget. Ask yourself, if I had five million dollars what would I be doing with my life?
Our goals and passions needn't be huge in the worlds' eye, but are huge for us, we are the ones who want to wake up invigorated each day, loving what we do... sometimes we have to take other roles to allow us time to develop our talent, and that's okay... we all need to feed ourselves. And, sometimes our own fear is the biggest hurdle we have to cross, I know, I lived in a place where I was no longer fulfilled, I had almost become numb and joyless... however more than anything I was afraid to change, afraid for myself and my family.... the good old 'what's ifs' came to visit my head and danced around, making merry, building up arguments as to why I shouldn't embark an a new adventure - the whisperings of so called sage voices telling me that I hadn't enough saved, that I was a fool to leave a secure well paid job to forge my own path and what would happen if....if.. (fill in you own blanks). I wonder has this ever happened to you?
When I did leave, eventually, the voices and naysayers in and out of my head shook their heads, oh was I in trouble. However, my kids asked 'What took you so long? and when I gave all those answers, their response 'so what.... things will work out... what if you have to sell the house - you can always buy another' was all I needed to hear. It takes time to build a business, reach a place of security, times when you're constantly questioning yourself with 'What do i think I'm doing? Who do I think I am that I could do this....? When you talk to the dying about their regrets, many say it was not following their dream when they could have/should have. The risks we don't take are those that we regret. Confront the doubt head on.
People who follow their dream often say how alive they feel, they work hard but it doesn't feel like work, they continually improve themselves to make their dream a reality. Happiness shines through them and is contagious. They like themselves more, they don't begrudge working at the weekends - they have flexible schedules. They inspire others, like you and me as we face our fears and win. Not only do they learn new things, but they enjoy the challenges they face. They inspire us all, Yes, it's risky, but all things that are worth it, are. Don't allow fear or challenge stop you from moving forward.. It's good to get out of your comfort zone, who says you can't? The only person limiting you, is you!
Remember you only have one life to live, Remember you only have one life to live, you are in charge of how you live it, so live it to the fullest and enjoy your journey. Live the life that's left to you with gratitude, positivity, and happiness fulfilling the dreams you have carried throughout your life!
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